From
the desk of Kira Wagner
Friday morning
Dear Enlightened One,
“I feel like I'm missing something, but
I don't know what.”
“ My life isn't going the way I planned.”
"I don't know why they keep letting me down."
“ I feel stuck in my job.”
“ I never get to spend time with my family – I'm like a stranger.”
“ I haven't taken any time for "me" in over a year.”
Sound familiar?
Maybe you can relate to a couple of my friends.
The first, we'll call him "John," was single, had
a good job and lots of friends. Yet, he felt empty inside. He wanted
a family, but he couldn't even get more then a handful of dates
with the same woman (either she wasn't interested or he wasn't.)
And his career felt lacking. Sure he had a good job and made a
decent salary, but it wasn't what he wanted to do with his life.
There HAD to be something more. Didn't there?
So John began to use affirmations. He started reading
books. And he really started looking for a new direction in life.
But…
A month passed, then 6, then a year.
And still no change.
He spent every waking – and sleeping – moment
trying to figure out where he was going wrong. He was a great guy,
wasn't he? He had lots of friends. So why couldn't he find the
right woman and start a family? Why wasn't he satisfied with his
career?
On top of it all, he found he had allowed himself
to slowly drift into debt, probably because he had been spending
more on "toys" to make up for that empty feeling he had inside
himself.
Soon there was the refinance on the house to just
break even with the credit card debt and he was working so much
he didn't even have time to go out on even one date. He was also
working so much he didn't have time to think about why he was so
unhappy anymore.
Then there was "Mary." A great gal with a nice husband,
a steady job and a beautiful daughter. She lived in a nice home
and from the outside looked like she had the perfect life.
But inside…something
was missing.
There was a distance in her marriage, a distance
that got wider every day. She had an emptiness inside her, which
also got bigger every day. She felt useless. She wanted a career
where she could actually help people, but every time she thought
about following her heart, she held back. Lack of money, lack of
support and, worse yet, lack of belief her dreams were even possible.
(And don't even ask about the relationship with her
daughter.)
Both were experiencing daily frustrations and worry
about money, relationships and life.
They were experiencing everything BUT freedom.
Although it doesn't look like it, John and Mary's
problem was very simple.
They didn't have
the right mindset.
What John and Mary DIDN'T know was how to break through
their fears, take their dreams and turn those dreams into thriving,
profitable, rewarding and personally satisfying lives.
A life that honored John's role as a man in today's
society. One that freed his time instead of making him a slave
to it. One that provided the income and status that he was working
so hard for.
And a life that allowed Mary to have a life beyond
her family, yet still be able to be a nurturer. |